Cyclebreaking
Breaking cycles is hard. Some people call the process of breaking free from old patterns or cycles that no longer serve them cyclebreaking. Other terms such as conditioned trauma response patterns, generational curses, or even karma, refer to a similar fundamental concept. Some aspect of the self is stuck in the past, unable to enjoy and experience peace in the present moment, and suffering because of it. My goal with all people is to encourage the development of their present consciousness—a sacred inner space of neutrality, or witnessing of one’s own sacred presence. I believe all beings are deserving and capable of freeing themselves from unnecessary mental suffering to experience the truth of their inner being. And if they cannot be free from all suffering, then let it be reduced.
I know through my own embodied experiences that life comes with darkness and pain. Sometimes we carry scars that never fade, and these scars remind us of the lives we have lived. My job as a therapist, and what I have always viewed as my service, is to help people shift out of trauma mode and into conscious awareness, so that they might build a conscious and meaningful life.
Every person has free will choices. Sometimes those choices are between the bad and difficult, but they are still choices. It is imperative in the process of becoming more authentically oneself, that one lift themselves out of victim mode, and into the role of the protagonist. You are the main character of your life, and you have choices to make. Life is not just happening to you. You are participating. Use your free will to make choices. And with every conscious choice, take the time to get to know your personal North Star. However, your inner knowing comes—whether through sensations in the body (i.e., feelings of calm, safety, trust, and peace), feelings of resonance due to alignment with your core values (i.e., intellectual, moral, and ethical agreement), or specific practices or traditions (i.e., historical, spiritual, cultural, methodological, behavioral practices)—learn to listen.
Ultimately, therapy is not always, but can often become the process through which we develop a sacred relationship with ourselves. As a therapist, I support and challenge my clients to get to know all parts of themselves. To this end, I strive to support my clients to find balance with all parts of themselves. However, for my Cyclebreakers, much of getting to know yourself is getting to know the parts of your Ego personality that you rely on, getting to know the parts of your Ego personality that have been malnourished, and most importantly getting to know which parts of your Ego personality can be let go of. In order to build a conscious life and break cycles, one must first become aware of their Ego.
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